I’m always trying to find ways to improve myself. Where can I push myself to be better? I decided about two years ago to try improv as a way to push myself out of my comfort zone, to improve my listening skills, to allow me to think faster, and to feel more comfortable in unexpected situations. It challenged me in ways I couldn’t have imaged. I’d do it again though.
I painted something and I couldn’t be happier!
I learned that I could draw.
A question that came up recently was about motivation. Specially, how to motivate others. This has been a question rolling around the back of my mind for a while. I am currently a trainer and mentor. I’ve learned that while you can provide all the resources in the world, you can’t force someone to look at them. It doesn’t matter how short or easy you make for them to be consumed, the person ultimately decides to look at them. That has been a challenge for me. I’m a very motivated person in certain areas. In certain areas, I just want to learn more and more and more. Work is one of those areas. I’ve been hired to do a job and I want to do the best possible job. I’m always pushing myself to be better.
When I think about my personal motivations, I feel they fall into two categories. The first category is goals. I want to get somewhere, achieve something, do something. There is a carrot/reward at the end of the road that I want to grab. The other category is feeling. I’m not sure why, but this feels right. I have a feeling I need to pursue this. That is how I feel about improv. About a year and a half ago, I kept seeing improv everywhere. It kept showing up. At the time, I was just starting to step into a more public roll, putting myself in front of other people. I didn’t have to sign up for improv, but I felt like I should. It felt like the right decision. It has been a year and a half since that decision, and I couldn’t be happier. It gives me a creative break from life. To challenge myself to do something different. To be bold with my decisions. To also learn emotions.
When I think about others, that is a challenge. I’m not other people. I’m me. But there has been a time in someone’s life where someone else got them excited about something. I was at a large tech conference in August and was watching some short presentations. There were a few that really stood out to me that got me excited. Someone else did something that motivated me. There was a slight cheat because, I was kind of interested in the topic to begin with. Thinking about what others can do, I feel there is a couple of external motivating factors. I think there is reward and community. With reward, there is money, time off, fame, revenge, etc. I’m not a fan of those types of motivators. While it is nice to be given more money for a reward, more time off, I think there is a fine line. The line between thank you for the gift and greed. If you are given x about of money for completing y, then could y be abused, corners cut, etc. I think that line comes down to the individual person and how they will respond. I think there is a time and place for external rewards, but they shouldn’t become standard. That leaves us with community. You may have heard the phrase, you are a sum of your five closest friends. The people who you surround yourself with have a huge impact, whether that is for good or evil. If the people around you are working towards a goal that is inline with where you want to head, then progress should be naturally made.
Recently, someone brought to my attention something I started letting slip. I have the tendency to take on more than I can actually do. Then things get pushed to the side. At that point, I had a decision. Was it important for me to make adjustments elsewhere in life or to let it go. Without my community their to bring it to my attention, I might have let it go completely. I’m in the process now making some changes and tuning back some of my other projects.
Things I’m currently passionate about:
Creativity - This is a large category for me with lots of smaller sections. I've been very much on the technical side, but trying to develop a more creative side to me. I include improv in this category. I’m also taking a drawing class.
Gym - Currently working with a personal trainer to help me achieve my fitness goals. I’ve worked out for more than a decade, routinely, while still improving over the years, not quite getting to my goals. Sometimes it is good to bring in an expert who knows what he/she is doing, can help correct certain movements, introduce you to new movements, and kick your ass in the process.
Learning Spanish - This is an area I want to improve, but isn't a top priority. Everyday, I complete activities that help me improve my Spanish, but I could spend more time.
Career - My career goal is to become a life coach. To work with others to help them achieve their goals.